We can’t change what we are not aware of. Grab a pen, download the pdf and underscore all of the habits that apply to you. NOW, you can start challenging these old mindsets.
21 habits that are preventing you from living wholeheartedly.
1. I find it much easier to give than receive and to offer support, rather than ask for help.
2. I understand that perfection doesn’t exist, but I still try to do most things perfectly.
3. I have a hard time saying ‘No’ to others, even when I am already feeling depleted or overwhelmed.
4. I expect myself to rise above life problems and to not show that I am stressed.
5. I’m scared of letting others down. The thought of offending, or being in conflict with others, makes me feel ill.
6. I often feel stressed and resentful as soon as someone asks for help because I know I am going to find it difficult to refuse.
7. When I’m feeling down, I tend to hide away with the attitude, that I’m better off ‘dealing alone’.
8. I allow others to take advantage of my good nature and my time and have a habit of letting others push me around.
9. I hate letting other people down. I value being liked and have a tendency to look for other people’s approval over my own.
10. I’m not sure what my life would look like if I chose to put myself first.
11. Meditation, white space and sustained relaxation practices are not for me. I’m too busy.
12. Communicating assertively scares me. What if I upset someone or provoke a reaction? I’d rather avoid any conflict and just play nice – even if it feels inauthentic.
13. I like the idea of being creative but rarely make time for those kinds of pursuits.
14. I constantly feel like there is not enough of me to go around and not enough hours in the day to get it all done.
15. I rarely delegate. It’s much better just to do it myself. At least I know that it will be done and done properly.
16. My default response is to blame myself. I ‘m more likely to acknowledge negative feelings and traits about myself, than to express negative feelings towards others.
17. I often operate my life with a pervasive sense of underlying anxiety. I feel rushed, overwhelmed and find it difficult to rest and relax easily.
18. I am very respectful of the boundaries of others, but not sure about my own.
19. I rarely take time to appreciate what I have achieved. I gloss over my wins.
20. In most areas of my life, I find it hard to let go. To let go of what others think, to let go of perfectionism, comparison or the idea of how I should be presenting to others.
21. While I can appreciate the importance of cultivating gratitude, it’s not something I practice consistently.
Can you identify with the habits listed above, but you’re wondering what to do with the information? Or why it’s significant?
Here’s why it matters –
A lot of these habits are an attempt to control your own life or to influence the way others see you. And that not only takes a lot of energy but makes us blind to what really matters.
So let me ask you:
In what circumstances are these self-defeating habits most likely to show up in your life. (Get specific).
Which habits do you notice the most?
How am I missing out on living my life on my terms because of them?
Which is the most difficult? (Make this a priority for you to work on).