Have you ever found yourself inadvertently walking through life, shut off from others? A little distant and disconnected or pretending that you don’t care?
Perhaps you’ve been ill and have needed to reserve your personal energy because there’s only so much you can take on.
You might have lost someone you love and unconsciously chosen to shield yourself from the intense vulnerability that accompanies grief. (It’s another reminder that none of us are invincible and no one is getting out of here alive).
Maybe you’re exhausted from the day in-and-out routine that you painstakingly set up, in order to maximize your need to get things done. Only now, you’re so enslaved by schedules and to-do lists that you’ve checked out from what really matters.
Human beings have an innate tendency to protect ourselves from all types of perceived discomforts and dangers, but this can easily result in feeling disconnected from the exact things we need to maintain our humanity.
Interconnectedness. Fluency in the full spectrum of our emotions.
A sense of aliveness and a belief that we’re living lives that matter; lives with purpose.
How to reconnect when you’ve been shut down
One of the most powerful ways I’ve found to reconnect, is to engage in stillness.
In a culture that rewards constant movement, stillness can be transformative.
Think about what happens when you pause for a moment and find that stillness within you.
It quietens the externals and brings a calmness to your body and mind. It gets you focused and reaffirms your personal connection.
It doesn’t demand silence, but for most of us (myself included), it requires practice.
I believe that one of the reasons we struggle with stillness is that, yes, it brings us peace, but first we have to sit face to face with the truth of our lives.
How to practice:
:: Start when you wake up. Before your feet hit the floor, spend a few minutes of stillness in bed or make it a conscious practice along with your morning cuppa. Focus on your breathing. It’s a great way to get focused and set the tone of your day.
:: Spend regular time in nature. Nature is fuel for the soul. Just 20 minutes, away from bricks and mortar boosts energy levels and invigorates more than any cup of coffee. Whether it’s having toes in sand near the ocean or a grassy walk through a park; taking time out in nature fosters our connection to all living things.
:: Decide to open your heart again. Life is uncertain and sometimes we shut down as a means of self-preservation and protection. The secret is not to stay shut down for too long. Notice where you are at. Stay curious and decide to open your heart again, even when it hurts a little. It’s the quickest way to heal.
Have a wonderful week,
On Heart work – This short video by the Institute of Heartmath, explains the heart’s intelligence and it’s role in happiness, human interaction, and global coherence. It’s worth a look.