A recent comment by U.S Author, Jill Savage on my blog post
‘The number one self care tip for perfectionists’ lead to an interesting online conversation between the two of us about ‘perfection infection’ and the skyscrapingly high expectations that many women hold in relation to mummyhood.
Jill has recently published her seventh sole authored book – ‘No More Perfect Moms.’
She is a mom to five, a grandmother and an incredibly switched-on woman!
While the book has a strong ‘faith’ undertone (which I’m stating here in the interests of transparency, not personal bias); We discovered that mums on both sides of the world are subject to many of the same issues and pressures.
What resulted was an interview that I felt compelled to record and share with all my mummy readers.
Perfection Infection + An interview with Jill Savage
I now understand that my pursuit of being the “perfect mom” set me up for failure from day one.
There are no perfect moms—just imperfect women who will fall off the pedestal of their own expectations more often than they care to admit.
~Jill Savage. No More Perfect Moms.
What we discussed:
- Motherhood and expectations – the way mums often set themselves up for failure from day one
- ‘Perfection Infection’ – What is it? What causes it? How perfection infection shows up in our everyday lives
- The antidote to perfection infection: ways moms can reduce perfection infection
- Balancing healthy, with realistic expectations of motherhood
- Feeling good about the mum you are. Not feeling bad about the mum you are not.
- Practicing grace, forgiveness and self-compassion
Most moms play the comparison game dozens of times every day. We constantly look to see how we measure up to those around us. And we don’t measure up.
But how can we measure up? We compare ourselves to something that doesn’t exist.
We compare our messy insides—our struggles, our failures, our less-than-perfect lives—to other women’s carefully cleaned-up, perfect-looking outsides.
It’s a game we moms play that we can never ever win.
If the interview resonated with you, please like and share it with your mumma friends and family.