If I had a dollar for every client who shared they fear being ‘found out,’ judged or ridiculed for not knowing what the heck they are doing; I’m confident I would have at an extra $1k in the bank by now!
You’re a fraud and you know it
As a Master’s student, I felt like the incompetent one in a sea of brainiacs.
When I first started coaching, I feared I wasn’t old enough, or experienced enough, to be someone who could truly help people.
I spent thousands and thousands of dollars investing in my own development, believing that once I had all this extra knowledge tucked under my belt – then I would be ready.
I would look at others who appeared more accomplished in my profession and think, if I just did what they did – imitated their style, hired their mentors; I would be able to uncover more of that secret magic that would catapult me into success.
One of my friends who has three published books, still questions when she will be able to call herself a ‘real’ writer.
Another has been teaching art classes from her home studio for over 5 years, but resists calling herself an artist.
And what’s funny is that after having coaching mentors who are effectively the ‘cream of the crop’, I soon discovered that even they are not immune to having these thoughts and feelings. No one is.
So what’s a fraud to do?
At some stage, you have to set our own benchmark and decide that what you have and what you know is enough to get started, and enough to move forward.
It’s a combination of changing the stories we tell ourselves, taking consistent action and continuing to practice self compassion whenever resistance shows up, which it always does.
Most of us want to move closer to our ideal lives. There might be a difference in the size of the jump required, but once you get on your way – You’re on your way! And only then does it become a little easier.